In the last week of the year, my mother in law died.
She had an ictus an than extensive brain bleding. The country being in the situation it is, hospitals are full, and they did not admit her past ER. To be fair, she lived 15 minutes drive from a major hospital, and it took 5 hours and a half for an ambulance to come, pick her up and bring her to ER. You cannot drive yourself to ER or a family member these days, due to covid19.
By the time she was checked into ER, her brain was gone, she was in a deep coma. The doctors called my sister in law and explained she had 1 or two days left and that another ambulance would drive her back home, since they did not have free beds and she was terminal.
At least my husband, one of his brothers and his sister were with her at the end (the other 2 brothers had unfortunately left to grab a bite some 10 minutes earlier). It was good for them I think, but really, it made me understand that it's so true when they say everyone dies alone. She was not conscious.
After all, the main measure taken by our government after months of debate on the pandemic, was spending 3 billions euros to equip schools with desks with wheels to ensure social distancing (and schools were only opened for three weeks in September, then they closed again).
Being the stubborn person I am, of course I always liked my mother in law and had a very good relationship with her. My husband is not the kind to express feelings, but I can see he's really in pain.
Since the family is strongly catholic, they had the open coffin in the house for 4 days, with people coming in from 7AM to 9PM. It was exhausting. Most people would start praying as soon as they step in, reciting what we call a Rosary (roughly, it's 50 Hail Marys, 5 PAter Nosters and a bunch of other prayers).
By the day of the funeral everyone was a train wreck - her priest son celebrated a beautiful functions, that made everyone cry (I really admire how good he was with words and memories, all without faltering - well not faltering too much). These poor guys have lost both their parents in 2020, and there's really not much anyone can do.
Finally yesterday, after the funeral, we decided to go back to our place in Milan (we won't be able to move in the new flat before the end of April).
On other news, I was late with periods for a while around Christmas, but then our hopes were crushed. Also, it seems they are putting me in the equity partners admittance process again, with a 50% chances of success. Frankly speaking, we came to a point where I'd rather not be made equity partner, but I'll develop more in the next post.
And the sad truth of how much more weight I have gained in these weeks of overeating and staying at home finally hit me very hard this morning.
This really need to go back to a weight loss blog.
Song of the day:
Snow can wait, I forgot my mittens,
Whipe my nose, get my new boots on.
I get a little warm in my heart when I think of winter
I put my hands in my fathers gloves
(...)
I hear a voice: You must learn to stand up
for yourself, 'cause I can't always be around
When you're gonna make up your mind?
When you're gonna love you as much as I do?
When you're gonna make up your mind?
These things are gonna change so fast
All the white horses are still in bed
I tell you that I'll always want you near
You say that things change
My dear, never change
I like Tori Amos, but I love Dream Theater cover for this one.
